October 11th is National Coming Out Day in the U.S.
I am a lesbian. (Probably, for some minor minor value, I might be considered bisexual. In that I find men perfectly attractive, I just can’t see why one would date them.) I came out in college, probably four years after I ought to have twigged to it. I came out because I had gotten a crush on a woman I spent some time with. Every time I was near her I stammered and trembled and all I could think in the world was please, please god I want to touch her. I didn’t come out to my family for another year or so, a blurted rush of words greeted with perfect equanimity by my mother.
Thank you, mom.
I am polyamorous. Since I started dating, I have never quite managed to understand monogamy. I date more than one person at a time, inclination and time permitting. My partners and dates are all poly themselves. My very smart friend once said that he didn’t think poly made relationships worse or harder, but that poly highlights and exacerbates any existing problems a relationship has. I largely agree with that. Poly is hard work, but so is monogamy. Of the sets of problems they each have, I’ll take the ones associated with poly!
I am pro-sex and pro-porn. I think people’s fantasies are theirs, and there is nothing wrong with the dirtiest, raunchiest, kinkiest fantasies — nothing wrong with writing them down or drawing them, either. I think drawing or writing a Batman, Wonder Woman, Robin bdsm three-way is your prerogative, and you are welcome to do so. Just, you know, use decent grammar and punctuation.
I am an agnostic — possibly an atheist, but likely not. I don’t believe there is a god. Moreover, I think belief in gods is frequently damaging to people and cultures.
I am a homeschooling parent. I think my partner and I can do a better job of teaching our kids than the school can. Moreover, I believe that age-grouped public education teaches kids the law of the jungle, to get away with anything they can, and that difference is weakness and evil. I don’t want my kids to learn that those things are normal and good, so I homeschool them.
I am a writer and an editor. I have gotten two pieces, one fiction and one non-fiction, accepted for publication. I write comics and have produced six short works in collaboration with artists. I used to write fanfiction, and have nothing but respect for fic writers.
Happy National Coming Out Day, everyone.
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